See the full article for more details on each of these "top tens" http://colorlines.com/archives/2011/11/5_ways_to_face_race_at_the_thanksgiving_table--and_not_choke_on_it.html
1. Talk turkey
“Talking turkey” means “talking plainly about a difficult or awkward subject.” Instead of just being reactive, why not be proactive? Start with a
question. Use plain language. Set the frame and tone you want.
2. Go easy on the stuffing
Be open to learning, because there actually are many valid perspectives.
3. Take a roll with the mashed potatoes
Talk on your own terms—when, how, and with whom you want. Not everything and everyone is worth your time.
4. Go for the gravy
Sometimes the gravy makes the meal, providing the perfect complement
to some delectable combinations. What’s the gravy you can add to the
conversation? Instead of the typical race talk focused on blaming and
shaming, and guilt tripping and grievances, how can you take things in a
different direction? Can you move beyond the personal to talk about the
patterns of inequality? Can you get beyond the symptoms to reveal the
underlying system? Can you create connections across different concerns
and communities so others can see their stake in social change? Can you
appeal to shared values such as inclusion, equity, dignity, unity and
love? Can you lift energy around a vision of racial, gender and economic
justice for everyone?
5. Keep your eye on the pies
The real point is to get others to see, act and think differently. But
that’s only gonna happen if you’re willing to nurture and sustain good
relationships with those you care about most.
