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1. Recognize your privileges, especially your male privilege (and white privilege if applicable).
2. Make a daily effort to acknowledge and then challenge your male privilege.
3. Recognize that your male privilege (among other privileges) may in fact blind you to others’ experiences.
4. Wall posters and iPhone wallpapers of semi-nude girls…Really? Take em down if you got em.
5. Stop catcalling.
6. Be conscious of where your eyes wander as a woman walks by. Change that behavior.
7. Stop assuming that random girls like you just because they smile at you and make eye contact.
8. Be aware of how you flirt with a woman.
9. Walk on the other side of the street when a woman is walking towards you at night.
10. If you’re going to be chivalrous (on dates) or in everyday life, do it for everyone out of kindness, not just for women or people you think aren’t capable of doing things themselves.
11. Treat women at your workplace with genuine respect, especially in male-dominated professions.
12. Enjoy popular culture with many grains of salt.
13. Be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
14. Listen.
15. Monitor your use of words.
16. Never force your opinions on other people.
17. Be conscious of your words and the effects it could have on others.
18. Be pro-choice.
19. Let yourself cry and be emotional.
20. Ask for consent, always.
21. Read websites like Feministing, Colorlines, Jezebel, etc. for your news sources.
22. Take a Women’s Studies class.
23. Acknowledge the lived experiences of women and LGBT-identified people.
24. Support same-sex marriage. Given.
25. Pick up a feminist book from your local bookstore to start off.
26. Get involved with school programs and events.
27. Support non-profit organizations and pro-feminist groups.
28. Journal daily and reflect on your behaviors, thoughts, ideas, etc.
29. Challenge everyday sexism in your life.
30. Don’t just talk the talk. Walk your talk.
31. Stop telling her you’re “different than other guys.” Don’t speak. Do.
32. Call out your friends on oppressive behaviors, jokes, or comments.
33. Challenge other men to do the same.
34. Reflect on how you were raised as a boy.
35. Strengthen your relationships with other men.
36. Take paternity leave if you’re a father.
37. Support musicians and artists that do not degrade women in their music and lyrics.
38. Put yourself in situations for self-growth through activism.
39. Redefine your masculinity in a pro-feminist way.
40. Never seek recognition or affirmation.
41. Recognize that you contribute to women’s oppression by NOT acting.
42. Claim the feminist label.
43. Blogs. Online Communities. Find spaces to dialogue with other like-minded feminist men.
44. Don’t be the hero, savior, or knight in shining armor.
45. Attend a women’s rights protest.
46. Strengthen the relationships with the women in your life.
47. Work with your partner or spouse on how to mutually share responsibilities.
48. Men aren’t the only ones who have orgasms. Remember that!!!
49. Don’t judge women by their choice of clothing.
50. Watch Miss Representation and Tough Guise.
51. Make time out of your day to call your mother and catch up with her.
52. Learn about your own familial roots and culture.
53. Treat all women equally. Race, class, or any other identity category should never dictate your treatment.
54. Catch yourself whenever you slip.
55. Seek out online blogs and magazines that talk about current events and race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc.
56. Think about issues and your own life from an intersectional lens.
57. Don’t dwell on the past, but don’t forget where you came from.
58. Support other people who advocate for gender equality.
59. Respect “her” culture.
60. Don’t assume she will take your last name if you both agree to marry.
61. Respect confidentiality.
62. Be willing to listen and know when to refer people to other resources.
63. Defy traditional male stereotypes.
64. Use your male privilege to advance feminist discussions in male-dominated spaces.
65. Recognize that we don’t define what being an ally entails. Women have that job.
66. Never give up.
67. Combat rape culture in your social circle, workplaces, or school.
68. Hold other men accountable.
69. Be an active bystander. If you witness harassment, do something about it.
70. Learn and use appropriate vocabulary.
71. Advocate for more inclusive policies, rules, or procedures in your school or workplace.
72. Speak as if a woman is always listening.
73. Be aware of your heterosexual privilege.
74. Celebrate milestones and victories with women and the LGBT communities.
75. Be proud to be an ally.
76. Seek out children’s books for your kids that challenge traditional gender roles.
77. Be able to laugh at yourself.
80. Make your space feminist!
81. Make a Twitter account.
82. Familiarize yourself with this book. You’ll thank me later.
83. This might go without saying, but be conscious of other social problems and issues! All oppression is connected. 84. Cook with your girlfriend, partner, or spouse.
85. Support and vote for political candidates who advocate policies beneficial to women, LGBT people, and other marginalized groups of people.
86. Join the Feminist Network Project and stay connected to thousands of feminists worldwide.
87. Support feminist media. 88. Embrace the haters. You can learn a lot from them.
89. Don’t fall for websites or causes that claim men are oppressed (by feminism). One example is A Voice For Men.
90. Travel to unfamiliar places.
91. Ask questions (but not too many)!
92. Start a blog!
93. Buy your books at local, independent bookstores.
94. Showcase your feminist pride! (If you’re comfortable)
95. Seek out role models and pick their brains.
96. Respect women’s spaces for dialogue.
97. Appearances should never matter. Promote self-love and healthy body images!
98. Turn magazines that promote sexism and unhealthy body image backwards at your local supermarkets and newsstands.
99. Be careful not to burn out. 100. Develop your own methods of self-care.
101. Please suggest further additions and edits to this list.
